Cycles

"Making resolutions is a cleansing ritual of self-assessment and repentance that demands personal honesty and, ultimately, reinforces humility. Breaking them is part of the cycle." Eric Zorn said - or wrote - that. Some columnist for the Chicago tribune. Smart guy, I reckon.

I've got cycles on the brain these days. How they can be so predictable yet...somehow I'm always surprised. The merry-go-round - it doesn't go anywhere. You're gonna pass that same brass ring everytime, and if you've never grabbed it, chances are you never will. But every time you pass it - the same cycle. Hope. Anticipation. Effort. Dissappointment. (Denial, Anger...oh, wait - different cycle. Kind of)

I work in sales and that is a cycle. Lead generation, cold calls, initial appointments, proposals, rejections, cheaper proposals, and (I'm told, from time to time) closes. At this point I've cost my employer more in locksmiths and replacement blackberries than I've brought in, so apparently this is a cycle I have yet to master.

Parenting is a cycle - a one step forward, two steps back sort of cycle. In that case, though, giving up on the brass ring is just not an option.

Marraige - mine, at any rate - cycle. Things are okay. Things are annoying. Things kinda suck. Things suck bad. I'm looking up lawyers on my lunch break. Big fight. More couples therapy. Things improve. Great weekend. Things are awesome. Things are really good. Things are okay...

Depression. Ugh - such an obvious cycle. Stimulus is unpleasant/stressful/reminds you that you were never breastfed/what-have-you (pick your theory). Your brain, dopamine or seratonin deficient, reacts with anger/ambivilance/insomnia/fatigue (pick your symptom). In so doing it creates a neural pathway which it becomes, sadly (pun intended) very comfortable with. The more times you're presented with the stimulus, the more worn in the neural pathway becomes, the more predictable your response.

Medication - beyond cyclical. Start at 10mgs, wait 6 weeks, go to 20, add (excruciatingly overpriced) Abilify...still not working? Perhaps a mood stabalizer...at any rate - it's an efficacy/tolerance/efficacy/tolerance cycle that frankly scares the bejesus out of me because, you know, at some point you just run out of new shit to try.

Throw in the fact that every depressive episode makes another depressive episode more likely...meh. cycles.

So here's my question - why can't we master the cycles? I mean they're so obvious, so predictable...why can't we head them off at the pass? Offer a cheaper proposal to begin with? Skip right to the great weekend? Go straight for the crack?

I'm guessing Eric knows what he's talking about. It's the process. It's the 'cleansing ritual of self-assessment and repentance'. The journey, not the destination. The ride, not the ring (pick your cliche).

I think he's a smart guy, but I get the nagging feeling that I'm missing something. I get the nagging feeling that, perhaps, I should be conisdering new resolutions rather than making and breaking the same ones in a, well, never-ending cycle.